Every relationship you have is either making you weaker or stronger.
No exceptions.
Friends, colleagues, romantic partners. There is no mid ground.
But how do you know?
You watch. You listen. You scrutinize. You think about the effect they are likely to have on you.
People who make you stronger
They build you up. support you, champion you. They encourage you to put yourself forward. They play it down when you mess up. They remind you of your wins. They tell you when you look good. They don't let you forget your ace cards.
They are not in competition with you. They are kind behind your back and playful to your face. They challenge you out of love. They don't let you give up. They are happy in their own skin so they can be happy for others. They celebrate your success without envy.
The friend who introduces you to their other friend. The colleague that wants you on their team. The partner that believes you can do it.
They help you be more you.
After spending time with them, you're energized and inspired.
People who make you weaker
They remind you of your mistakes. They shut you down when you dream too big. They question your ability. They put doubt in your mind. They judge your outfits. They undermine your confidence. They try to change you.
They compete with you. They are nice to your face and mean behind your back. They appease you. They let you give up. They have insecurities of their own that they project onto you.
The collaborator who undervalues your strengths. The family member that warns you about dangers that aren't real.
They make you less you.
After spending time with them, you're drained and filled with self-doubt.
Everyone in your life should be there because you chose them.
Not out of nostalgia
Not because of habit
Not down to obligation
Maximum awareness. Intentional relationships.
Demand the best for yourself.
